tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-80328435538875986962024-03-13T05:45:31.925+01:00SpiritualonAlon's (admittedly superficial) musings on spiritual issues, the search for wisdom and an attempt to understand the writing and legacy of masters, sages, saints and deep thinkers by sharing my thoughts on their words and works...Alonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11265324853300473691noreply@blogger.comBlogger69125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032843553887598696.post-29838948029596925042013-05-15T20:55:00.003+02:002013-05-15T20:57:04.858+02:00Eating for life can be spiritual ?!Ok, so the title is a bit strange, but allow me to explain. I have been reading quite a bit about eating for health - the <a href="http://www.amazon.com/The-Paleo-Solution-Original-Human/dp/0982565844/ref=pd_sim_b_5&tag=r601000000-20" target="_blank">Paleo Solution</a>, the <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Paleo-Diet-Revised-Healthy-Designed/dp/0470913029/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1368643239&sr=1-1&keywords=paleo+diet&tag=r601000000-20" target="_blank">Paleo Diet</a>, <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Anticancer-New-Way-Life/dp/0670021644/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1368643198&sr=1-1&keywords=anticancer&tag=r601000000-20" target="_blank">Anticancer</a>, etc. - and strangely enough it is tough to separate eating right, from feeling right, from doing right and/or from "being right" (i.e. additional aspects of healthy living like sports and spirituality).<br />
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So how can eating right be spiritual you may ask? Well, if you start paying attention to what you are eating, it is a form of paying attention, of focus, and this in and of itself is very meditative in quality. Now that may be an intellectual shortcut but the truth of the matter is (at least my TOTM) that once you start trying to eat right you are in the process of accepting the "garbage in, garbage out" principle and can't really help thinking of the other ways we "feed" ourselves (TV, cinema, culture, reading, positive people, ...).<br />
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And once you start paying attention there is no going back, i.e. it is a slippery slope down to the spiritual path. My "eating right" plan started due to some funky blood tests and it has led me to rethinking everything I eat and the link between eating right and good health. That in turn got me thinking about living right and has led me to the inexorable conclusion that I need to meditate. In other words, I need to work on my "monkey brain" (as many Eastern practitioners are wont to call a mind that believes in the illusion that multitasking is possible) to quiet it down and gain some additional serenity in my life and in my way of being.<br />
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Easy? Not really. Which is why I have started by trying to improve my eating habits : ) A bit easier to do (without falling asleep, which is what my meditation keeps leading to - high quality cat naps)...<br />
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In any case, allow me to share four concepts that have really left an impression on me:<br />
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1/ the way we eat in most Western diets creates inflammation and irritation within the body and weighs heavily on our immune system opening the door to a host of possible "oh-no not that" diseases...<br />
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2/ while there is very little consensus in all things "nutrional" there is one apparent consensus concerning the catastrophic effects that white sugar and white flour can have on our health. Again no consensus but out of my various readings I would suggest minimizing (or better yet, eliminiating) consumption of both and if you can't avoid them or can't resist the temptation make sure that you consume them as part of a meal and never alone (e.g. during a snack).<br />
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3/ instead of thinking about meals as fleshy major + veggie minor (e.g. large portion of meat/poultry/fish + smaller side portion of veggies, mash potatoes, fries, salad, whatever), you should actually think about it backwards: a veggie foundation which you accompany with a small portion of meat/poultry/fish/tofu for taste (hat tip: David Servant Schreiber MD PhD)<br />
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4/ we can think of our bodies as garden - if it is well-tended then the occasional weed will pop up but will be easy to identify and deal with, if it is not tended then weeds will end up invading more and more of the garden and potentially devastate the rest of the garden.<br />
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Now that I know how to eat, I will still have to figure out how to meditate without falling asleep. Apparently the two together are the key to a longer, happier and healthier life. But who would want that?!<br />
<br /><div class="blogger-post-footer">See www.spiritualon.blogspot.com for more of Alon's spiritual musings</div>Alonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11265324853300473691noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032843553887598696.post-16455933679617549442013-04-03T14:05:00.001+02:002013-04-03T14:43:02.395+02:00Mindfulness versus Mine-fullnessHi,<br />
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I know it has been a while since I have posted but it is not for lack of spiritual interest, thinking and reading. Actually I have several books to review and much thinking to share - hopefully I'll take the time to get my ass in gear and write some of it all down.<br />
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That said, a lot of my recent thinking is on mindfulness. From various and disparate sources I have been getting the message that it is time for me to live a more mindful experience and that there is "mindfulness" is a vast subject that includes awareness, intention, a form of super consciousness, talking to your brain, talking to your superbrain (see Deepak <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Super-Brain-Unleashing-Explosive-Well-Being/dp/0307956822/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1364992759&sr=1-1&keywords=super+brain+deepak+chopra" target="_blank">book</a> of same name), talking to your cells, talking to your DNA, talking to your Akash (past life history), talking to your higher self and even talking to your quantum energy. While that may seem like a lot and quite disparate, the different discussions all make a lot of sense - even if they are referring to different ways of approaching the question the overall message is the same: you/I/we have the ability to shape our respective realities much more than we do and the key to doing just that is mindfulness.<br />
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Now what exactly is mindfulness? I won't attempt a definition here but my understanding is bringing attention to everything you do, observing, listening, attentive to feelings, emotions and energy and being more present. For example, walking while being attentive to your breathing, to how each foot feels as it hits the ground, how the rest of your body feels (knees, hips, swinging arms...), being attentive to each step you take. Very Thich Nhat : ) who even eats his oranges that way. <br />
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Obviously meditation is part of the mindfulness experience, or could be. And that is also where the mine-fullness comes into play. Being mindful is easy to say (or write) but is more of a slippery eel than I expected. I hope it is like a muscle that will get stronger as I exercise it, as for the moment my mindful endurance is not pretty. But as I try to be mindful more often, I find it sneaking into various stages of my day and hopefully whatever process may have started that this may be hinting at will continue. Fettered or unfettered, I just hope it expands !<br />
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In the meantime I will be trying to successfully navigate the minefield of my own creation which is on my path towards a hopefully more spiritual way of being. Boom, crash, wince, adjust the azimuth but/and carry on ; )<br />
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Thanks to http://putmeincoach13.blogspot.com/2011/04/western-conference-predictions-walking.html for the image <br />
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<div class="blogger-post-footer">See www.spiritualon.blogspot.com for more of Alon's spiritual musings</div>Alonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11265324853300473691noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032843553887598696.post-59409550880872685132012-06-15T17:26:00.000+02:002012-06-15T17:26:12.260+02:00Being grateful... for Rhonda ByrneLet me start this blog post by giving gratitude! I have innumerous things to be grateful for but I would like to share one recent one with you - <a href="http://www.amazon.com/o/ASIN/1451673442?tag=adapas02-20" target="_blank">The Magic</a> - a book by Rhonda Byrne (of The Secret fame). A wonderful book which is actually a handbook and daily exercise workbook on showing, living and expressing gratitude in many different aspects of your life.<br />
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It is actually quite simple and "all" it takes is come time, focus and discipline...Obviously those three are not easy to align, otherwise we would all be who we wanted to be a long time ago, but the requirements are relatively low on all three dimensions (10 minutes per morning and 5 every evening, and, depending on the exercise du jour, some sporadic moments during the day).<br />
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I am convinced, and not by Rhonda in this case, that gratitude is the first step to a better, richer outlook and life experience, but also the first step towards being a more spiritual being. Which means that it requires some "work" for most of us.<br />
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Once you start looking for things to be grateful for you discover a never-ending list. But it also reminds you to appreciate things and to stop taking so much for granted. Being grateful for the food you eat makes it taste better. The same goes for everything and the formula is drop-dead simple: being grateful for X makes X better.<br />
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You can substitute X for anything - food, water, friendships, family, work, play, technology, life, health, music or smaller things like the material stuff, gadgets, chewing gum, you name it. Which kind of implies, in a sappy way, but very real way, that it actually makes us richer (we have better everything than we thought). It wakes us up to the incredible abundance we have and were not fully aware of (I hope you don't mind me including you in the "we")...<br />
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In any case, I am truly grateful for this opportunity to use technology to try and share this wonderful book, concept, philosophy, spiritual practice with you - whether you discover this the day I wrote it or in many years time... <br />
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Gratefully yours,<br />
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Alon<div class="blogger-post-footer">See www.spiritualon.blogspot.com for more of Alon's spiritual musings</div>Alonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11265324853300473691noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032843553887598696.post-43669250879166981402012-01-11T23:25:00.000+01:002012-01-11T23:25:57.708+01:00Great quote on joy sorrow and humor<br />
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<i><span style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Everything human is pathetic. The secret source of humor itself is not joy but sorrow. There is no humor in heaven.</span></i><em style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> ~ Mark Twain</em></h4>
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<em>(thanks to <a href="http://www.elephantjournal.com/" target="_blank">Elephant Journal</a> for the quote)</em></div><div class="blogger-post-footer">See www.spiritualon.blogspot.com for more of Alon's spiritual musings</div>Alonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11265324853300473691noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032843553887598696.post-43637176357673586952011-12-28T10:45:00.000+01:002011-12-28T10:46:05.879+01:00Job - a Biblical hero and great storyOne of the Biblical stories that have always impressed me is that of Job. Lots and lots has been written about Job but if I put it into the proverbial nutshell this is what I get:<br />
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<li>The guy isn't even Jewish! </li>
<li>God is a cynic - betting on the faithfulness of his believers with Satan no less.</li>
<li>God is unfaithful - he sold out his most faithful follower.</li>
<li>Job is not about patience but more about enduring the incomprehension of God's ways.</li>
<li>Job shuts God up for eternity - in the Old Testament it is the last time we hear God speak (in the Christian versions Job appears earlier).</li>
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I still find it interesting, even fascinating that Job was not Jewish and yet he was included in the Old Testament as one of the books of Wisdom. There is much to wonder about here but it is a testimony to the power of the story.<br />
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Another interesting aspect is Job's wife. His first wife. She has no name in the story and she is the only character that we do not know what happens to. All of his first children are killed, all of his animals are stolen or killed, all of his houses are burned and/or pillaged. But she takes care of him apparently, chides him about his "issues" and then just disappears from the story. Not a very feminist writing style, apparently she did not merit mention, or some say it was the author's way of avenging her chiding of Job. Georges de la Tour, a renowned French painter from the 17th century put this part of the story into oil and medium - even if it was mistaken for another painting with another title for only a few hundred years... (oops!). Actually I found the picture (painted in the 1630s) so I can show you rather than tell you about it/her...<br />
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Interesting to note that Job is mentioned in the Old and New Testaments as well as in the Coran. And while the Coran does not mention Job that often, I found it interesting that during the Lebanese civil war in the 1980s it was often written on walls around Beirut "sabrak ya Ayoub" - meaning something like "Be patient Job".<br />
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For those who have not read the book, basically the form is a bit post modern alternating poetry and prose in the three parts. Three different friends come and give Job "advice" as he suffers many different maladies until God comes to address Job directly. The ensuing "dialogs" are fascinating as basically it seems like Job has the moral upper hand and God resorts to the "because I said so" of many parents and then disappears for eternity with the equivalent of a "humph!" <br />
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I am now reading a fascinating "biography" of Job, Job's unknown author/s and the story of Job throughout history. It is called "<a href="http://www.amazon.fr/Vies-Job-PRIX-MEDITERRANEE-FRANCAIS/dp/2070125394/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1325064902&sr=8-1">Vies de Job</a>" (Lives of Job) and is written by the very erudite Pierre Assouline.<br />
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The book is fascinating on a lot of levels but one of the most incredible is that on page 84 he made a comment which made me think of a book written by my grandfather, Yossel Rakover speaks to God. A Job-like story which is incredibly powerful in a short format. Imagine my surprise when 5 pages later he goes on to tell the story of Yossel and my grandfather Zvi Kolitz over 10 pages!<br />
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In this book, I also learned how many people identify with Job! It turns out that he is the poster boy of the rich as he was both the richest in the land and the most righteous, so this proves that the two can go together. Also, many (tortured?) artists and authors completely identified themselves with Job. Voltaire, that strange (and contestable) literary figure, for example, mentions Job or identifies himself with Job nearly 1800 (!) times in his letters and correspondences. Can you say "obsession"?<br />
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And as an added bonus, Pierre Assouline mentions in his book Francis of Assisi, another personality from posterity I am particularly interested in, even if it would probably have been Brother Leo (his faithful sidekick) who was more Job-like, but side-kicks never do get the merit they deserve across the ages. Mutatis mutandi and all that jazz.<br />
<br /><div class="blogger-post-footer">See www.spiritualon.blogspot.com for more of Alon's spiritual musings</div>Alonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11265324853300473691noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032843553887598696.post-79349990463747708342011-10-23T12:10:00.002+02:002011-10-23T12:11:53.197+02:00A new book on my radar: I was blind but now I seeEvery once in a while a book comes into my peripheral vision that speaks to me. The most recent example is James Altucher, who I discovered via elephantjournal.com (an interesting website in itself). He wrote a book called <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Was-Blind-But-Now-See/dp/1466347953/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1319363657&sr=1-1">I Was Blind but Now I See</a> which speaks to many things I often think about. Books like Noam Chomsky's Manufacturing Consent on how our thinking is shaped by the media, or Jiddu Krishnamurti's entire life work on the importance of understanding the effects of education, media, parents, culture and religion in shaping who we are, how we think and act, what we strive to do and be, how we define success, happiness and failure - strike a similar chord.<br />
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Although I have not gone far enough into my own personal inquiry on all of these elements I am increasingly aware of the fact that I need to be increasingly aware of this. That most of who and how I am is not conscious or even of my own doing.<br />
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James Altucher seems to be addressing these issues in his book. I have ordered it today. When I take the leap and read it I will report back.<br />
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If you take a look at the book or have read it, let me know what you think/thought.<div class="blogger-post-footer">See www.spiritualon.blogspot.com for more of Alon's spiritual musings</div>Alonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11265324853300473691noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032843553887598696.post-66962414860813091062011-07-26T10:32:00.001+02:002011-07-26T10:32:19.346+02:00Waiting to exhale - spiritual maturityA quote from an e-mail I received today from Andrew Cohen of EnlightenNext on Spiritual Maturity:<br />
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<i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Spiritual maturity is not a matter of how long you have lived or even how much life experience you have. The important question is: how much does any of us actually</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">learn</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #333333; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">from our life experience? Those people who are more spiritually developed are people who have been deeply paying attention, who are sensitive and awake enough to truly learn, and grow, and significantly evolve as a result of the life experience that they have.</span></i><br />
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This has got me thinking about a theme I have often thought about - what am I waiting for to start to apply all that I have learned, seen, heard and read about spirituality??? When will I finally assimilate even just a smidgen of all that I "know"? Those who don't know have an excuse, but what about all of us who have taken the time to inform ourselves about being, acting, thinking, reacting differently and in a more spiritually-evolved manner? No excuse. None.<br />
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So, when do I start?<br />
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What about now?!<br />
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Yeah right...<div class="blogger-post-footer">See www.spiritualon.blogspot.com for more of Alon's spiritual musings</div>Alonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11265324853300473691noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032843553887598696.post-84346593644185589012011-06-30T17:53:00.000+02:002011-06-30T17:53:01.479+02:00God grant me the serenity - wonderful food for thought<div style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: black;"><o:p>No need for comment, I just wish that I kept this in mind more often (now printing this out to put on my office wall). This is what I wish for us all at least up to the word peace - thereafter it is to each his/her own according to his/her own beliefs...</o:p></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: black;"><o:p><br />
</o:p></span></div><div align="center" style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: black;">God grant me the serenity <br />
to accept the things I cannot change;<br />
the courage to change the things I can;<br />
and the wisdom to know the difference.</span><span style="color: black;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div align="center" style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: black;">Living one day at a time;<br />
Enjoying one moment at a time;<br />
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;<br />
Taking, as He did, this sinful world<br />
as it is, not as I would have it;<br />
Trusting that He will make all things right<br />
if I surrender to His Will;<br />
That I may be reasonably happy in this life<br />
and supremely happy with Him<br />
Forever in the next.<br />
Amen.</span><span style="color: black;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div align="center" style="text-align: center;"><i><span style="color: black;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">~ Reinhold Niebuhr</span></span></i><span style="color: black; font-size: 27.5pt; mso-bidi-font-size: 13.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="blogger-post-footer">See www.spiritualon.blogspot.com for more of Alon's spiritual musings</div>Alonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11265324853300473691noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032843553887598696.post-41550268134129214612010-12-18T14:15:00.000+01:002010-12-18T14:15:46.744+01:00Sometimes Simple = SpiritualI was recently watching a CNN interview of Larry King with Garth Brooks. I was not really interested but I was in China and there was not much else on television so I listened as I worked on my computer. Slowly I was drawn in. While Garth Brooks did not say anything incredible, it slowly dawned on me that this was someone who had figured quite a lot of life's important lessons and was able to articulate them in the simplest of terms.<br />
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He was humble, grateful, understood the value and importance of relationships, spoke in loving terms in respect to his ex-wife and the mother of his children (summed up along the lines of "we are no longer husband and wife but we will never stop being mom and dad"), and exuded something extremely positive.<br />
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It was quite surprising as I had never seen him before and had never heard his music before and I did not know much about him either. Something in his simplicity struck me as being extremely beautiful and extremely human. Apparently his music has that effect on many as it turns out that he is one of the best selling artists and performers in the US over the last decade or so.<br />
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He also appears to live by one of the principles of management that I think is key - "we succeeded, I failed"...<br />
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One of the most striking things, to me, was the simplicity with which he spoke. Short sentences, no fancy vocabulary, but able, nonetheless, to express very deep ideas and the degree to which he cared about many people (family, friends, colleagues). Impressive. <br />
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The man is clearly no saint and even admitted to being attracted to the dark side of the law. However the way he spoke, his demeanor, and the life intelligence he expressed were all strikingly unconventional. Not an idiot savant by any means but an example (and a reminder to me) of how wisdom and spirituality can come in apparently simple packages.<div class="blogger-post-footer">See www.spiritualon.blogspot.com for more of Alon's spiritual musings</div>Alonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11265324853300473691noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032843553887598696.post-38147963130155776602010-10-24T14:43:00.000+02:002010-10-24T14:43:27.839+02:00Excited about a new book on the way - Talking with AngelsI have just ordered the French-language version of a book called Dialogues with the Angel in French but translated into Talking with Angels in English by Gitta Mallasz. It is apparently another case of "scribum deus" by which the author/s were inspired to write or felt they were not their own words (i.e. they took dication from a higher source). This story is interesting as it took place over 17 months among 4 Jewish friends in Hungary right before the second world war. Only the author survived the war and lived to tell the incredible story.<br />
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Similar books I have read and loved, mentioned in early blog posts include Conversations with God (<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Conversations-God-Uncommon-Dialogue-Book/dp/0399142789?ie=UTF8&tag=spiritualon-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">Conversations with God : An Uncommon Dialogue (Book 1)</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=spiritualon-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=0399142789" style="border: none !important; margin: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;" width="1" />), A Course in Miracles (<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Course-Miracles-Dr-Helen-Schucman/dp/1883360250?ie=UTF8&tag=spiritualon-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">A Course in Miracles: Combined Volume</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=spiritualon-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=1883360250" style="border: none !important; margin: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;" width="1" />) and Many Lives Many Masters (<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Many-Lives-Masters-Prominent-Psychiatrist/dp/0671657860?ie=UTF8&tag=spiritualon-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">Many Lives, Many Masters: The True Story of a Prominent Psychiatrist, His Young Patient, and the Past-Life Therapy That Changed Both Their Lives</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=spiritualon-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=0671657860" style="border: none !important; margin: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;" width="1" />)<br />
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I still haven't received my copy yet but I hope to be able to share some pearls of wisdom for you from this book once I have time to dig into it...<br />
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<iframe align="left" frameborder="0" marginheight="0" marginwidth="0" scrolling="no" src="http://rcm.amazon.com/e/cm?t=spiritualon-20&o=1&p=8&l=bpl&asins=3856307044&fc1=000000&IS2=1&lt1=_blank&m=amazon&lc1=0000FF&bc1=000000&bg1=FFFFFF&f=ifr" style="align: left; height: 245px; padding-right: 10px; padding-top: 5px; width: 131px;"></iframe><div class="blogger-post-footer">See www.spiritualon.blogspot.com for more of Alon's spiritual musings</div>Alonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11265324853300473691noreply@blogger.com0Paris, France48.8566667 2.350987148.7437227 2.1175276000000003 48.9696107 2.5844466tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032843553887598696.post-17519496034920490662010-09-27T00:21:00.000+02:002010-09-27T00:21:12.103+02:00Daniel Kahneman: The riddle of experience vs. memory | Video on TED.com<div>A very brief post which is none other than a link to an interesting TED talk by the Nobel prize winner on behavioral economics. Here is a talk about experiencing happiness...</div><div><br /></div><div>Food for thought and for improving our awareness of the experience of happiness rather than relying on our fickle memory.</div><div><br /></div><div>Enjoy</div><div><br /></div><a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/daniel_kahneman_the_riddle_of_experience_vs_memory.html">Daniel Kahneman: The riddle of experience vs. memory | Video on TED.com</a><div><br /></div><div class="blogger-post-footer">See www.spiritualon.blogspot.com for more of Alon's spiritual musings</div>Alonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11265324853300473691noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032843553887598696.post-85913095048838849342010-09-17T14:20:00.000+02:002010-09-17T14:20:36.297+02:00Spirituality in a glass of wine (yup!)I am reading the most wonderful book on wine, Terry Theise's <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Reading-between-Wines-Terry-Theise/dp/0520265335">Reading Between the Wines</a>. As I mentioned earlier in a recent post, spirituality, when you look out for it, pops up in the most unexpected places.<br />
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My intention is not to do a book review but just to share with you some of the ideas that have come to mind since starting to read the book. Terry talks about connectedness, of listening to what the wine has to say or is trying to express, of the way wine will make anyone who tries to tame the subject quite modest, of the links between nature and wine, and more...<br />
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Reading this got me thinking about how wine is also a vessel for a lot of "here and now" type meditation. When you taste a glass of wine, or rather when you stop to taste a glass of wine, you put everything else aside and concentrate all of your senses on the task at hand. One-pointedness, total concentration, listening to what messages your senses are sending you... sounds a bit like zen meditation to me.<br />
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The book is just wonderful and anyone who even slightly enjoys wine would love to read it. I learned a lot and have enjoyed it quite a bit on a lot of different levels (personal anecdotes, language, travel stories, ...).<br />
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Plus anyone that quotes Ouspensky's Tertium Organum in a book on wine can't be all bad : )<iframe align="left" frameborder="0" marginheight="0" marginwidth="0" scrolling="no" src="http://rcm.amazon.com/e/cm?t=spiritualon-20&o=1&p=8&l=bpl&asins=1161357602&fc1=000000&IS2=1&lt1=_blank&m=amazon&lc1=0000FF&bc1=000000&bg1=FFFFFF&f=ifr" style="align: left; height: 245px; padding-right: 10px; padding-top: 5px; width: 131px;"></iframe><br />
<iframe align="left" frameborder="0" marginheight="0" marginwidth="0" scrolling="no" src="http://rcm.amazon.com/e/cm?t=spiritualon-20&o=1&p=8&l=bpl&asins=0520265335&fc1=000000&IS2=1&lt1=_blank&m=amazon&lc1=0000FF&bc1=000000&bg1=FFFFFF&f=ifr" style="align: left; height: 245px; padding-right: 10px; padding-top: 5px; width: 131px;"></iframe><div class="blogger-post-footer">See www.spiritualon.blogspot.com for more of Alon's spiritual musings</div>Alonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11265324853300473691noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032843553887598696.post-47435532239839896432010-07-14T19:56:00.001+02:002010-07-15T08:57:46.687+02:00Who has time to be spiritual?Well it has been a while since I have posted to this site. And it has been some time since I have had time to take stock of anything spiritual, except to notice that I really haven't had time "to be spiritual" of late.<br />
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Even worse, I would say that any illusion of spirituality or of thinking/acting a bit differently flies out of the window when I am tired, under work stress, lacking sleep. Exactly when you need spirituality most it seems to be most elusive.<br />
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After the heat of the moment<u>s</u> I remember some of the spiritual lessons and kick myself for not being able to apply them during the moment of truth. Reading the different spiritual books and sources has given me many tools to deal with stress and I think I do ok for the most part managing stress, but there are still too many slip-ups for me to look myself in the mirror and say 'you done ok kiddo'. Maybe one day. In any case, I just wanted to share with you some of my favorite 'stop and reframe' tricks. If you can call it a trick. In any case, it is something that I hope you can use more efficiently than I have in recent months, but that when I have used them have helped me quite a bit to diffuse otherwise delicate situations.<br />
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Two of my favorites are as follows:<br />
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<ul><li> The first, "What would love do now?" when in a confrontatational situation with someone. Taking a deep breath and saying to myself "ok, if I acted from a place of love and caring for this person how would I act in this situation, how could I react more positively?" This has helped me rewrite quite a large number of emails that otherwise would have been more ballistic and less constructive...</li>
<li>A second, "This is not being done to me" which is kind of a mind set in which I remind myself that even though the person involved in some friction is not behaving as I would prefer, they are not doing it "to me" rather that is just something they are acting out with me. I got this one from the Course in Miracles and I am explaining it poorly, but it is very powerful reframing approach which helps me especially in 'altercations' with strangers when someone acts meanly or spitefully without provocation. </li>
</ul><div>Anyway, short but I am now being kicked out of the cafe that I am writing this from. I hope this helps a little bit and in any case I am happy to be back : )</div><div class="blogger-post-footer">See www.spiritualon.blogspot.com for more of Alon's spiritual musings</div>Alonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11265324853300473691noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032843553887598696.post-8175428163496974692010-04-19T10:31:00.000+02:002010-04-19T10:31:46.105+02:00Giving (better) advice or giving advice (better)One of the things that are tough to deal with in our post-modern world is the whole notion of giving advice. And that is for many reasons. The more we read and search and learn the more we have a willingness to share that knowledge with others. And sometimes that "willingness to share" comes out less neutral than we would like and more like advice.<br />
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Then there are many hang-ups about advice. We all have our own but often I know that I feel that maybe giving advice is a form of arrogance? I mean really, without going to the extent of Socrates, do I really know enough about anything to justify giving advice? Then there are the social takes on advice, like only give advice when you are asked. Or the post-modern injunction of "everyone is ok as is" which I guess kind of precludes any advice that could possibly change someone. Then there is the Venus-Mars world in which apparently women are not looking for advice in respect to any problems/situations/decisions, they just want to be heard. Advice, such we are told, is a Mars no-no.<br />
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Spiritually-speaking, the more we delve the more we realize that the unseen is greater than the seen, that we understand a lot less than we think, and that what may ring true to us on one level may be seen from an entirely different perspective from another. Without going too far into that debate, it is clear that advice, in that spirit, is a slippery slope.<br />
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That said, we are often confronted with friends, colleagues, family members who either ask for or seem to need our advice. What to do, what to do?<br />
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An interesting answer to the question is given in a recent <a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/ulterior-motives/201004/what-is-the-best-way-give-advice">blog post in Psychology Today</a> in which behavioralists seem to have cracked the code on effectivly giving advice. They looked into the way people actually use advice and found four main kinds of advice: <em> </em><br />
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</ul>Interestingly, decision makers seem to value the feeling (or illusion) of making their own decision independently. Thus the first three forms of advice makes the decision maker feel they have lost a bit of autonomy in making a choice. However, when the advice is given solely as information the decision can listen to and use the information without feeling like they have not made up their own minds - independently.<br />
<blockquote> </blockquote>And if that wasn't enough, when you give advice as information it also helps the person receiving the advice in future related decisions and makes them more confident about their choice.<br />
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So there you have it, a little perspective on giving advice. However, please note that this post was made on a purely informative basis : )<div class="blogger-post-footer">See www.spiritualon.blogspot.com for more of Alon's spiritual musings</div>Alonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11265324853300473691noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032843553887598696.post-21236016560144601072010-03-27T11:30:00.000+01:002010-03-27T11:30:09.148+01:00Being and becomingThis post was inspired by an article read in <a href="http://www.enlightennext.org/magazine">EnlightenNext</a> magazine (formerly What is Enlightenment?) - my favorite magazine over the last 6 years since I last discovered it.<br />
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The article was a discussion in a series of discussions between Ken Wilber (an 'integral philosopher') and Andrew Cohen (a 'spiritual leader' and founder of the magazine) on vertical and horizontal development.<br />
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It is actually one of their best discussions and one that is particularly a propos for 'our' generation in which there is a lot of confusion, I find, about what becoming a better person actually means - which is something I imagine most of us strive for (some more or less actively and/or consciously).<br />
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Without rewriting the article, the main idea in their words is that horizontal development is about being a better you, i.e. improving (without getting into what that means). While vertical development is about becoming a new 'you' (quotes mine, as the you changes I figure it merits something to show the before-after element). Wilber differentiates between the two as horizontal pertaining to being and vertical dealing with becoming. Both agree that both are necessary.<br />
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My own take on this, as I try to explain it to myself, is that horizontal development is about improving or personal improvement. Something I think every one of us sees as a goal at some level. Vertical development, I see as evolving into something new.<br />
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Now I see this also as a wonderful goal, and share at some level the belief of the authors that this is possible. At the same time I wonder if this is not simply human hubris. Let me explain.<br />
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A major element/theme in EnlightenNext magazine is evolutionary consciousness, levels of spiritual development and the belief in the ability of human beings to evolve as a race and as people. Now the first part, evolving as a race, from one generation to the next is something that appears clear and, thanks to Darwin et al., not too difficult to see over the history of our planet. The second, being able to evolve within our lifetimes, and to consciously evolve (i.e. something that does not happen by accident or mutation) requires a bigger leap of faith. Can we really change in the sense of becoming something or someone new or can we only become "better" or "more" of what we already are?<br />
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Most of the faith-based religions would say the latter. Even Buddhism shows enlightenment as an awareness of something you already were (and forgot), i.e. a reconnecting with not a reinventing of.<br />
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In other words, can we give credence or, better yet, experience the idea put into words by Cohen, "we're not simply making the self, as it is, better. We are engaging with the spiritual process in such a way that the result is going to be the emergence of some quality, ability and capacity that was not there before"?<br />
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I tend to think so and I hope so. But maybe that is just my own hubris...<div class="blogger-post-footer">See www.spiritualon.blogspot.com for more of Alon's spiritual musings</div>Alonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11265324853300473691noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032843553887598696.post-6936138476434522792010-01-29T16:01:00.000+01:002010-01-29T16:01:03.590+01:00The Afterlife... a question of perspective?<div>I recently read a book called <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Sum-Forty-Tales-Afterlives-Vintage/dp/0307389936/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1264777232&sr=8-1">Sum: forty tales from the afterlives by David Eagleman</a>. Not the most insightful or deep book but it did present several versions of possible afterlives in a quick and witty format. Which led me to think a little bit about how much our personal perspective about the afterlife/afterlives plays or should color our approach to our present life. </div><div><br />
</div><div>What you believe about the afterlife, what form you think it may or may not take, the existence of some form of continuity after this life, could make a big difference about how you live during this one. Without going into extremes about those who give up this life for promises of virgins, riches or paradise in another life, it seems like an important point that needs to be verified by each one of us. However, this question leads us, naturally, straight into the arms of either philosophy or blind faith (or both) as the answer cannot be known in this life. A bit of a paradox isn't it?!</div><div><br />
</div><div>Anyway, while thinking this over a song by Prince, which may or may not have a direct relation to philosophy or blind faith, which is called Let's Go Crazy. Some of the words go like this:</div><div><br />
</div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13px;"><blockquote><i>Electric word life</i></blockquote><blockquote><i>It means forever and that's a mighty long time</i></blockquote><blockquote><i>But I'm here 2 tell u</i></blockquote><blockquote><i>There's something else</i></blockquote><blockquote><i>The afterworld</i></blockquote><blockquote><i><br />
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</i></blockquote><blockquote><i>So when u call up that shrink in Beverly Hills</i></blockquote><blockquote><i>U know the one - Dr Everything'll Be Alright</i></blockquote><blockquote><i>Instead of asking him how much of your time is left</i></blockquote><blockquote><i>Ask him how much of your mind, baby</i></blockquote><blockquote><i><br />
</i></blockquote><blockquote><i>'Cuz in this life</i></blockquote><blockquote><i>Things are much harder than in the afterworld</i></blockquote><blockquote><i>In this life</i></blockquote><blockquote><i>You're on your own</i></blockquote></span><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">The final line of the above lyrics, which is not the last line of the song, is a bit brutal or honest or brutally honest (depending on how you want to see it). But depending on your perspective on both life and the afterlife, this may not be your own truth. </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">As you mull over that, it is interesting to consider the role that the afterlife has played in different religions, philosophies and quasi-religions like Buddhism. The perspective on the hereafter definitely colors everything else. Oddly enough, in Judaism and Christianity, mentions of the afterlife seem to have been edited out of the religion as it has been presented to the masses. While discussions and texts refering to the afterlife have been debated among scholars, mystics and the 'initiated'. </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">One interesting approach is that each individual experiences the afterlife as they imagine it. For those who imagine a fiery hell, that is what they get, just as those who imagine floating from cloud to cloud playing a harp will get to experience that image. Maybe this is the universe's way of allowing everyone to be right : ) </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">The joke is on us though as we will be able to say 'Aha! I was right!' but we may possibly not have anyone to say it too!</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 13px;">I have one book that has been looking at me from my bookshelf for some time now. Heaven and Hell by Emmanuel Swedenborg, someone who took a very long look at the question. If I finally heed it's call, I will let you know what I think about it. In the meantime, be careful about your own perspective - because in this instance you may get what you wish for...</span></span><br />
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The story goes something like this. A Taoist is like a man with hands and feet bound in ropes dangling over a cliff and holding on to a branch only with his teeth. Knowing this, we must be careful when we talk about Taoism. Knowing this, we talk about Taoism.<br />
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I thought this was a great image! If you open your mouth it's over, and yet we need to open our mouths... This was also his feedback, politely, concerning my writing about Buddhism. I should be careful I guess before I open my mouth. And this is true. Throughout this blog I am writing mostly about things of which I know very little of. I read a bit, according to the hasard of books, texts, ideas that cross my path, and react without the depth that comes from true understanding. Knowing that, I still open my mouth : ) <br />
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As a follow up to my exchange by e-mail I was also sent a text called Buddhism in a Nutshell, written by Dzongsar Khyentse Rinpoche of <a href="http://siddhartasintent.org/">siddhartasintent.org</a>. The text is quite interesting and really does get to the essence of what Buddhism is and is not. In four points, DKR explains that:<br />
<ol><li>All compounded things are impermanent (and all phenomena are compounded).</li>
<li>All emotions are painful.</li>
<li>All phenomena are empty.</li>
<li>Nirvana is beyond extremes.</li>
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Even the path (Dharma) and the Buddha is impermanent, empty and an illusion. However DKR uses a wonderful image to explain why it is necessary. If you are trying to find someone you have never met, I can describe the person, show you a picture of the person, tell you what I know about the person and that way you can go and find the real person. <br />
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One of the reasons I am dualistic about Buddhism (pun intended) is that even Siddharta taught Buddhism three different ways. Instead of saying that his thinking evolved, Buddhists show some marketing moxy by calling it The Three Turnings of The Wheel and explaining it not as a "change of mind" (another intended pun) but as necessary evolutions in his teaching - which in all fairness does make sense.<br />
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In case you are curious, the three turnings are about a central element of spirituality, the mind. In the first turning the Buddha taught that <b>there is a mind</b>. In the second turning he taught that <b>there is no mind</b>. In the third turning he taught that <b>mind is luminous</b>. Different Buddhist commentators have interpreted the meaning of this evolution in Buddha's teachings, of which I know little. So on this subject of Buddha's change of mind concerning mind I will not open my mouth and leave you while dangling over the proverbial taoist cliff...<div class="blogger-post-footer">See www.spiritualon.blogspot.com for more of Alon's spiritual musings</div>Alonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11265324853300473691noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032843553887598696.post-19060891381339955002009-12-29T13:05:00.000+01:002009-12-29T13:05:58.548+01:00Benevolent Man<div style="font-family: "Courier New",Courier,monospace;">Sometimes you find spirituality in the darnedest of places. Here is a quote from Adam Smith, who could legitimately be considered the father of Western Capitalism:<br />
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</div><div style="font-family: "Courier New",Courier,monospace;">I don't actually feel that this one needs much comment... nor do I need to point out that the golden rule is "hidden" in there somewhere, along with some notion of moral justice and/or (the erroneous Western understanding of) karma... Nope! no need... <br />
</div><div class="blogger-post-footer">See www.spiritualon.blogspot.com for more of Alon's spiritual musings</div>Alonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11265324853300473691noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032843553887598696.post-2759796129306864842009-12-25T22:12:00.001+01:002009-12-29T12:55:34.220+01:00Buddha, Buddhism and Internal ParadoxI am now reading "<a href="http://www.amazon.com/What-Buddha-Taught-Expanded-Dhammapada/dp/0802130313/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1261773820&sr=8-1">What the Buddha Taught</a>" by Walpola Rahula, who wrote this in 1958 while in Paris studying at the Sorbonne (which creates some sort of an affinity with me in my mind as it is also my alma mater).<br />
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What I like about this is that Rahula attempts to simply present the texts and Siddharta Gautama's original words and teachings. I am not sure that it is possible to do so but at least he makes an honest attempt to do just that.<br />
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While reading this book, from the very beginning, what struck me immediately is an internal paradox linked to Buddhism. Siddharta Gautama found his own truth by abandoning all traditional religions and their methods and going his own way. Unfortunately, to me this is the essence of Siddharta's message, you need to walk your own path. I say unfortunately because it makes our work more difficult. And my own feeling on this is that following any one else's method, no matter how beautiful, evolved, thoughtful, spiritual, ... including those of Buddhism, is a shortcut to someone else's truth.<br />
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The Buddha himself, who I prefer to call by his name Siddharta Gautama in order not to deify him, "attributed all his realization, attainments and achievements to human endeavour and human intelligence." And he seemed to believe that "man is how own master, and there is no higher being or power that sits in judgment over his destiny."<br />
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According to Rahula, Siddharta "taught, encouraged and stimulated each person to develop himself and to work out his own emancipation, for man has the power to liberate himself from all bondage through his own personal effort and intelligence."<br />
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So how do we go from a personal journey to an -ism, like other isms, religions and codified practices? While I have no doubt that the intentions were pure it seems that Siddharta was lacking the coldness of heart that someone like Jiddu Krishnamurti had. Siddharta saw the plight of others and tried to "teach, encourage and stimulate" where Krishnamurti called for uncompromising introspection with no real hints as to the how of proper self-knowledge and spent a lifetime trying not to become anyone's guru. It seems to me that both have a similar message but that somehow Siddharta allowed himself to become the Buddha, thus recreating some of that from which he broke free.<br />
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This is the inherent paradox I see in Buddhism. And it is even apparent to Rahula at some level as he begins his book by comparing the Buddha to other founders of religion, while wondering aloud "if we are permitted to call him a founder of a religion."<br />
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A final 'food for thought': Siddharta's story also made me think about how often in history spirituality is a privilege of the wealthy. Much like St. Francis of Assis, Siddharta was the son of wealthy parents (royalty) before becoming a renunciate. Maybe only wealth to the point of not having to worry about the bottom elements of Maslow's heirarchy of needs from a young age, leaves the mind to dedicate itself to more lofty or existential thinking. Who knows?<div class="blogger-post-footer">See www.spiritualon.blogspot.com for more of Alon's spiritual musings</div>Alonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11265324853300473691noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032843553887598696.post-14673469273967399472009-11-22T15:34:00.001+01:002009-11-22T15:38:53.605+01:00Nowism versus Balance?In recent years among the many, many spiritual books, self-help books and assimilated, there have been two competing "truths". The first, embodied by '<b>the power of now</b>', living only in the present instant, with books like the one with the same name by Eckhart Tolle, and the second embodied by this more fluffy notion of '<b>balance</b>' accompanied by the injunction to find balance in your life, balance your personal and professional lives, eat a balanced diet, etc.<br />
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However, it seems strange to me that no one I have seen in the spiritual and self-help circles has written much about balance in relation to the power of now. I guess the main reason is that if you do you tend to invalidate the whole notion, I mean you can't live mostly in the present moment and be in the now. It's kind of like the joke about being somewhat pregnant, it's actually an either/or situation. <br />
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Trying to live only the present moment can, without too much intellectualization required, could lead the unsuspecting 'nowist' to hedonism, short-termism, egoism and probaly many other isms. That said, applying the notion of 'nowism', living in the present, participating fully in what you are doing, is something that is important to remember and, more importantly, to do, when appropriate. It is definitely easy to be so preoccupied with the future or the past that you don't participate fully in 'what's going on' and in that sense the injunction to live in the now is very useful.<br />
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A wider application of the power of now mandate of living in the present moment, as the future does not yet exist and the past only exist in our minds, is more difficult to apply. On the one hand, for those of us who have studied a bit of physics there is no such thing as past-present-future in such straightforward terms. While the injunction is probably useful for highly-evolved beings, if something like that exists, for the rest of us who are living in the time continuum it would be quite dangerous to apply the injunction 24/7. Which leads to my thinking on why we have not seen more people reminding us to balance this too. The tyranny of balance has been thrown at us at all levels in recent years, "you need to find balance", from balancing your finances to balancing all aspects of your personal, social, professional, educational, emotional, physical, and 'leisureal' (couldn't find an '-al' for that one) lives...<br />
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So what would balance in respect to the power of now look like? I guess it would imply that you experience the present fully (whatever that means) while still planning for the future (e.g. making plans) and remembering the past (e.g. using experience to avoid past mistakes). Could it be that simple???<br />
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PS Just for fun and thought: What's going on, Marvin Gaye<br />
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<blockquote><i>Mother, mother - There's too many of you crying<br />
Brother, brother, brother - There's far too many of you dying<br />
You know we've got to find a way - To bring some lovin' here today <br />
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Father, father - We don't need to escalate<br />
You see, war is not the answer - For only love can conquer hate<br />
You know we've got to find a way - To bring some lovin' here today<br />
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Picket lines and picket signs - Don't punish me with brutality<br />
Talk to me, so you can see - Oh, what's going on<br />
What's going on - Ya, what's going on - Ah, what's going on<br />
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In the mean time - Right on, baby - Right on - Right on<br />
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Father, father, everybody thinks we're wrong<br />
Oh, but who are they to judge us - Simply because our hair is long<br />
Oh, you know we've got to find a way - To bring some understanding here today<br />
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Picket lines and picket signs - Don't punish me with brutality<br />
Talk to me - So you can see - What's going on - Ya, what's going on<br />
Tell me what's going on - I'll tell you what's going on - Uh<br />
Right on baby - Right on baby </i><br />
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PS2 Thanks Marvin<div class="blogger-post-footer">See www.spiritualon.blogspot.com for more of Alon's spiritual musings</div>Alonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11265324853300473691noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032843553887598696.post-31901631573337294992009-11-11T10:41:00.001+01:002009-11-11T10:41:01.157+01:00Not understanding someone = a spiritual lesson on its way?Every once in a while I see somone in a complicated situation and I think to myself "How did they let things get that way?" I wonder why they didn't they do X or Y or Z as it is so obvious that that is what is necessary. I just don't understand them. Often I shake my head, or think to myself in one form or another "I would have done things differently" which is a subtle or not-so-subtle way of considering myself smarter than another. <br />
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Something has happened though recently. Or rather I have started to notice something recently that looks like a pattern emerging. I have a feeling that every time I "don't understand someone" I condemn myself to understanding that person sooner or later. Learning, any form of learning, comes from reaching understanding concerning something which was formerly not understood. Spiritual learning, I have a feeling, comes from understanding humanity in all its forms. Sometimes I think that maybe we are God's Little Learners and that our growing understanding of human nature contributes to God's.<br />
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Once I hit on this idea I started to realize the long list of non-understandings that I have condemned myself to understand. Probably the majority of the list comes from our parents. "I don't understand how my parents could..." could be the beginning of many, many sentences.<br />
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Some things are silly in perspective but nevertheless there they are. I couldn't understand how my parents could be addicted to coffee. Or how they could drink coffee on a hot summer day. Now I do. I could not understand how my father could be addicted to smoking. Now I smoke a cigarette a few times a week and see how addicting it is.<br />
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Many more lessons come to me from my students, my colleagues, my friends, the occasional boss... I don't understand how... and then I do. I couldn't understand a certain type of plagiarism, I couldn't understand certain frustrations, I couldn't understand weight-reduction inducing heartbreak, I couldn't understand managing from emergency to emergency... now I do. <br />
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Let him without sin cast the first stone. Whether we have sinned or not, the potential is there in all of us. Which makes us all similar. Human. Maybe that is what our mission here is all about, checking off a long list of 'not understandings', a different kind of bucket list than we are accustomed to thinking about.<br />
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Now whenever I don't understand someone, it freaks me out a bit. I realize either I have to figure it out then and there or I am condemning myself to live the experience. Then again, maybe life is all about empathy. I never could understand life ; )<div class="blogger-post-footer">See www.spiritualon.blogspot.com for more of Alon's spiritual musings</div>Alonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11265324853300473691noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032843553887598696.post-33398798286113604522009-10-16T16:22:00.000+02:002009-10-16T16:22:15.867+02:00[Follow up] Spirituality at workSo my last blog 'post', if I can call it that, on the subject of spirituality at work was a bit brief. As I struggle personally with the subject, it was interesting to find a few gems hidden in a book that I had started and not finished, right before I was about to banish it back to my bookshelves, possibly forever (gasp!).<br />
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The book is one that I already discussed in this blog in a past post - The Five Languages of Love. A good book with many pearls of wisdom that are very applicable. As I leafed through the book on the way to the bookshelf I feel on one of the last chapters which discussed love languages at work. The author relates one story in which two co-workers did not really get along. One of the two attempted to apply the precepts of the book and try to understand the love language of her co-worker. Once she did this her whole attitude to the co-worker changed, timidly, and, surprisingly to her, so did that of the co-worker did too. From two co-workers that were cold to each other, their relationship became one of mutual aid and eventually friendship. Asides from being a modern fable, it was actually quite interesting to think about... I tried to relate it to my own experience and it has given me food for thought.<br />
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A bit further though I read something that really caught my eye and attention. A sub-chapter entitled "Is it hypocritical to love?" It got my attention because this is really something I have been struggling with. How do you find love for people you work with if you don't know them or have an initially cold relationship? Can you pretend to love them without feeling like an idiot, or hypocritical or without causing them to think that you are just plain weird? It all seems very California granola-ish... not sure that it works anywhere in which granola is not considered one of the primary food groups.<br />
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And here was the chapter attempting to answer my question for me. So I read on. The author Gary Chapman punted himself and referred to another author-thinker CS Lewis whom he quotes as follows:<br />
<blockquote><i>T</i><i>he rule for all of us is perfectly simple. Do not waste time bothering whether you "love" your neighbor; act as if you did. As soon as we do this, we find one of the great secrets. When you are behaving as if you love someone, you will presently come to love him.</i></blockquote>I have been trying to apply these words. Occasionally I forget and the reaction of the 'other' is not pretty. When I stay on track though it is heart-warming (usually) to see the reactions of others.<br />
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It seems that no matter where I go with this blog it keeps circling back to the golden rule. Hmmm.<br />
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Anyway, I will try to apply CS Lewis's method. Just remind me gently if you see me forgetting to walk the talk... Gently. Please.<div class="blogger-post-footer">See www.spiritualon.blogspot.com for more of Alon's spiritual musings</div>Alonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11265324853300473691noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032843553887598696.post-83430020570752356592009-10-11T21:45:00.000+02:002009-10-11T21:45:52.952+02:00Benevolence and intention...In a recent business presentation, of all places, I came across the following quote from Adam Smith, an economist who is best known for his Invisible Hand metaphor which is often understood, and possibly with the author's intention, to say that each of us, following and acting on our own self-interest (read egotism) actually ends up doing good for society, even if it is unintentional.<br />
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As the philosophical father of modern capitalism, I was a bit surprised to come across the following from the same author in a treatise entitled The Theory of Moral Sentiments:<br />
<blockquote><i>No benevolent man ever lost altogether the fruits of his benevolence. If he does not always gather them from the persons from whom he ought to have gathered them, he seldom fails to gather them, and with a tenfold increase, from other people. Kindness is the parent of kindness; and if to be beloved by our brethren be the great object of our ambition, the surest way of obtaining it is, by our conduct to show that we really love </i><i>them</i>.</blockquote>The first part of this quote is not too original but expresses the sentiment that is a bit like 'bread upon the waters' in which you gather what you sow tenfold in terms of human kindness. A definite benefit for those who apply the golden rule (see a previous post on this subject).<br />
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The second element, "<i>kindness is the parent of kindness</i>" is also a wonderful sentiment and something to remember, just like the contagious nature of smiles and laughter, kindness is also viral... So taking these two elements together it would seem that not only do you get back tenfold benevolence but you also spread tenfold benevolence around the world. The image that comes to my mind is the proverbial pebble ripples in a pond. Nice to think that that is or could be the case.<br />
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The third element of this wonderfully rich paragraph is a bit more intriguing: "<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: italic;">if to be beloved by our brethren be the great object of our ambition"</span>. My initial reaction was 1/it seems strange to me that we can have an ambition of being beloved by others and/or that that could be a positive thing; and 2/that today the word ambition has a negative connotation (albeit only in my mind) or at least a connotation that is not very spiritual. Upon reflection, ambition, just like pride, can be very positive sentiments that can encourage and inspire people to do great things. And just like the 'invisible hand' if it is out of an ambition to be beloved by others that drives you to loving others, as Adam Smith suggests, what could be wrong with that?! For what a wonderful way to end this lovely paragraph, it is not about telling people that you love them but by showing them - <i>by our conduct to show that we really love </i><i>them.</i><br />
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Love thy neighbor as thyself... do unto others as you would have them do unto you... Adam Smith seems to be giving us another version of the golden rule. What is interesting too is that Adam Smith begins his paragraph in the third person (<i>he</i>, <i>other</i>) but ends it on a collective and more personal note (<i>our</i>).<br />
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A wonderful paragraph rich in wonderful sentiments.<br />
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And now I suggest that we go out and throw our little pebbles into the big pond...<div class="blogger-post-footer">See www.spiritualon.blogspot.com for more of Alon's spiritual musings</div>Alonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11265324853300473691noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032843553887598696.post-7664683358816607152009-10-03T11:45:00.000+02:002009-10-03T11:45:30.616+02:00The Bible - The Old TestamentOne of my favorite authors, if not my favorite author, <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Meir_Shalev">Meir Shalev</a>, wrote a book whose title I could translate from Hebrew into "Firsts" but will apparently appear as <span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 13px; font-style: italic; line-height: 19px;">In the Beginning: Firsts in the Bible<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; line-height: normal;">. It is all about firsts mentioned in Genesis. The first love, first kiss, first hate, first murder, first war, first king, first laugh, first dream, first cry, first spy, first prophet, first wise man... A book of firsts which is interesting, especially for anyone who enjoys the Bible, and even more so, for anyone who enjoys literary and/or biblical interpretation. </span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: sans-serif; font-size: 13px; font-style: italic; line-height: 19px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; line-height: normal;">For those who know the Old Testament, there are always at least three levels of interpretation for each word, let alone each story. Shalev adds another level of interpretation by implicitly suggesting that each first that appears in the first book about "in the beginning" (the literal translation of Genesis from the Hebrew) has additional importance by the mere fact of it being a first.</span></span><br />
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An interesting example is that the first love that is mentioned in Genesis is not what you would expect and not when you would expect it. Love appears relatively late in the narrative as it waits for Abraham. And the first love is not what you would expect either. It is not love for God, it is not love for his wife Sarah, it is not love for Agar the servant with whom he had his first son Ismael, it is not for his first born Ismael... The first love that is mentioned is the love of Isaac, his son from Sarah his wife, and it is only mentioned by God when he instructs Abraham to sacrifice Isaac.<br />
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Chapter 22 of Genesis:<br />
<blockquote><i>And it came to pass after these things, that God did prove Abraham, and said unto him: 'Abraham'; and he said: 'Here am I.' And He said: 'Take now thy son, thine only son, whom thou lovest, even Isaac, and get thee into the land of Moriah; and offer him there for a burnt-offering upon one of the mountains which I will tell thee of.'</i></blockquote>So it is interesting to consider, and Shalev invites us to do so, that no love was mentioned between Adam and Eve, that it wasn't lover's love or a mother's love, but that of a father for his son. And it was neither the son nor the father that mentions it, but rather God. It almost seems like an adjective used to describe Isaac, rather than an appreciation of the love of a father for his son, but there it is nonetheless.<br />
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As an aside to this story, and something I had never realized before, but Shalev points out that this event, the very grim pseudo sacrifice of Isaac by Abraham, created a significant before-after rift. One of the gifts of the Biblical author(s) is subtlety. In a very subtle manner it is possible to understand without it being said explicitly that Abraham does not go back to Sarah after this and that Abraham and Isaac never live together again.<br />
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The rest of the story is also fascinating, with Abraham later sending a servant to help find a wife, Rebecca, for Isaac. But that you will have to read on your own (Genesis chapters 26 and onwards).<br />
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With some humor, Shalev announces another first: the first dream. He declares with some sadness that the first dream is not what we would guess either. It is not Jacob's Ladder, in which Angels ascend and descend from Heaven but the dream of a foreign King who dreams of Abraham (then Avram) wife Sarah (then Sarai) who the king wanted to take as a concubine as he was told that she was Avram's sister (Avram was afraid that he would be killed by the king because Sarai was so beautiful)...<br />
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The book is full of stories and interesting personal interpretation on Shalev's part. It is a wonderful book, but it is also a wonderful way to rediscover the Old Testament. So many wonderful and rich stories. While the book is wonderful it is even better if you keep a copy of the Old Testament next to your bedside table so as to be able to revisit the original in parallel.<br />
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Great literature and inspiration to go back and discover-rediscover Genesis. A wonderful book no matter what belief system you bring with you.<br />
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PS Shalev wrote another book on the Old Testament, Bible Now, already in 1985, with personal interpretations of biblical stories.<br />
PS2 Another great book of Meir Shalev's, recently translated into English, <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Pigeon-Boy-Novel-Meir-Shalev/dp/0805212140/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1254562687&sr=8-1">About a Pigeon and a Boy</a>, . Wonderful literature. Highly recommended!<div class="blogger-post-footer">See www.spiritualon.blogspot.com for more of Alon's spiritual musings</div>Alonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11265324853300473691noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032843553887598696.post-46868926449665912992009-09-12T14:38:00.000+02:002009-09-12T14:38:12.085+02:00[Thoughts on] EnlightenNext magazineOne of my favorite magazines of recent years, or at least one of the only ones that I really try to read cover to cover is <b><a href="http://www.enlightennext.org/">EnlightenNext</a></b> (formerly What is Enlightenment). Recently it appears that they have had financial problems, like much of the printed press, and are now calling for donations, financial support and the like. I am kind of worried about them as most people in a delicate financial situation only make those kinds of requests/announcements late in the game and when they have to.<br />
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Already, in the last few years I noticed the increasing use of advertising in their pages and started to wonder about that. Although, to their credit, these have usually been (more or less) spiritually-oriented ads. Which brings me to the real subject (sub-text) of this post: how can you reconcile spirituality with commerciality? (I know that that's not really a word, or at least a regularly-used word, but I am sure you know what I mean). How can you be discussing enlightenment on page 1 and asking for money on page 2? Then again, maybe it is a modern form of (the somewhat medieval) alms - people on a spiritual mission depending on the generosity of strangers for their survival.<br />
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And here I go off on another tangent. Alms and living off other people's generosity reminds me of St. Francis of Assisi, one of my favorite religious historical figures. God's little pauper, as Kazantzakis called him, was one of the first well-known (or at least well-documented) renunciates. While he had absolute faith, his acolytes probably had a more difficult time dealing with the day-to-day. As I see a personal letter from the founder of the magazine calling for financial help I must admit I hear more concern and realism than the irrealism born of absolute faith. Which probably means that the rest of the staff is a lot more worried... I do hope that they figure out a solution.<br />
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What I read (past tense) between the lines is what got me thinking and what eventually led to this post. It is not easy to reconcile "doing the right thing" (or a good thing) and getting paid for it. We are now in a world in which we expect a lot of things to be free, open source, 24/7, available, shareable, etc. So how can spirituality not be all of that too?<br />
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While I don't know if they are considering this, I have a feeling that many of their readers would be willing to pay more for their subscription to see the magazine survive. How much is too much to pay for a unique magazine? Not sure I know the answer to that one, but I do imagine that the price sensitivity of their readership will be less elastic for this magazine than for others.<br />
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Finally, getting back to the ads I mentioned earlier. One of the phenomena I have seen on the internet in financial advising, commercial websites, blogs (but not mine, otherwise there would be more than a dozen of you reading this) and now spirituality is something I call "closed-circle expertization". A handful of experts mention a handful of experts, write the testimonials for their books, blogs, courses, conferences, show up as guests in the books, blogs, courses and conferences of each other, are present on the same panels, roundtables and speaking circuits. A kind of cartel in which each boosts the interests of the others in order to boost their own interests. It is a great business model and one that probably evolves more naturally (organically to use the parlance) than most business cartels, but it not less present nonetheless. Such it is with most of the spiritual leaders we read and hear about today - and EnglightenNext's panel of spiritual leaders is not much different.<br />
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Nevertheless the quality of the writing, the breadth and depth of articles and spiritual leaders, as well as the themes they explore does make it a magazine well worth reading and thinking about and, now, supporting.<br />
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Enjoy! and tell them I sent you ; )<div class="blogger-post-footer">See www.spiritualon.blogspot.com for more of Alon's spiritual musings</div>Alonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11265324853300473691noreply@blogger.com0